Do You Treat Yourself as Well as You Treat your Family and Friends?
It seems like an easy enough question. Oddly though for so many of us the answer is no. Until very recently I did not treat myself as well as I do my family and friends.
Growing up in an environment that especially as a woman, everyone i.e. children, men, family and friends are always taken care of first. I learned that it was vain or self-indulgent to put myself first. This was something that was taught to women in our family generation to generation.
Gratefully I did learn that in being selfless, there was also great nurturing of others. I see power in that. Now I’m learning how to meld that for myself as well.
Here are three ways that I am taking care of myself with nurturing and power:
- Take a Break – Instead of going about my day at a break-neck pace, I now stop and take breaks when I need to. I take a nap or just stop and check-in with my breathing and where my head and emotions are. Re-grouping myself into present moment.
- Mirror Love – My friend Lisa Lamont has created a way for us to show ourselves self-love. Look in the mirror and ask this question – Mary, I love you, what good may I do for you today? With that I answer with the intentions that I have set for the day such as: “Today is going to be my best day ever”. Doing this practice daily is a game changer in self-love and self-care.
- When to say “Yes” and when to say “No” – My days can easily get very busy. I have learned two things. I say “Yes” only when my intuition is strong that it’s the right thing for me to do. 2. I say “No” when I have checked my boundaries of what is important to me. Am I doing it to put others first? Or am I taking account of my own wants and needs first. There’s nothing wrong with either, it’s just a choice.
I’m finding out that with treating myself better, I am treating other better as well. I have so much more energy inside and out. And I take on my day with joy and excitement for what’s next.
Mary Boisselle, Chief Concierge of My Concierge LLC., started her first organizing business in 1996 to help her clients have more free time to do what they love. She has perfected her organizational, project management, and people skills to become the trusted concierge of many busy executives and successful professionals who are leaders in their fields.
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